Yes exactly what are our own
perceptions, all to often we allow our past to rule
our today’s, and govern what we will become
tomorrow. We are told we are useless by our piers so
we go through life believing in that concept. Never
wanting to change through fear of ridicule or actual
failure and the inevitable, “I told you so’s”
We can all aspire to whatever we wish, but yet we
must cast away those threads of doubt haunting us
from our past. Only you can control the power others
have over you. Happiness does come from within, and
being self aware, of being happy with what, and who
you are, only then can you be the real you, only
then will you achieve your goals.
One of the best
ways to dispel these fears of failure is to look
within yourself for the one thing you are really
good at, be it looking after children or being a
friend or a poet, you may be good at relating facts
to others, a storyteller maybe. It could be a hobby,
painting for instance or drawing, do you like
cooking or baking, or even charitable pursuits. Even
the smallest thing can be elevated. A sport or
health and fitness, literally anything you are good
at can help change the way you are, or the way
yourself and others perceive you
My own parents
told me I was nothing more than a miner’s son, and
should accept this fact, and not rock the boat by
trying to be anything more than this. My education
was basic state education where we were all taught
to be miner’s sons and carry on the tradition laid
down by our forefather’s or be happy prissy little
housewives, prepared for nothing more than stay at
home and raise a brood of kids.
Taking that one
element you can then aspire to greater levels and
create inner happiness and the self-esteem builds on
the success you are then creating for yourself.
Everyone is good
at one thing the trick is finding that one small
thing you can build on. We often go through life
never realizing what our one talent actually is and
often it really does take a friend to point this
out, so do listen when they say, “You’re really
good at this or that aren’t you”.
My own, one thing, I was always good at was art, and
yes all through my life my friends have always given
my artwork praise. Oh! I wished I'd listened, for it
was not until much later in life that I actually
started to believe them. As an adult learner in the
UK I went to college, my confidence grew as I found
my many hidden talents, not just the one. Surrounded
by creativity on all sides, praises for my efforts
and the success's in the final exams, gave me the
life skills I was missing for so long, so its never
to late to change these negative ways and attitudes.
Once you yourself begin on
the road to building success’s, the pat’s on the
back the well done’s all add to your inner state
of well being. And success builds confidence and
your inner happiness grows with it. Your past fears
are then history and can only hurt you if you let
them. I still have days of self doubt even today,
and I slip into depressions, but never for too long
as my inner confidence and overall well being brings
me back to my senses and the realization that it is
all in my own mind and nothing more.
By
John
aka Oaky Wood
Agony Uncle on "The Corner 4 Women"
http://thecorner4women.com
Poet, writer, artist, webmaster and designer and
owner of the Oakwood Grafix Group of
websites.
http://oakwoodgrafix.co.uk/
