About 12 years ago I got married to a wonderful girl. We were not as young as some, both had been married before, but the chemistry between us was right and we tied the knot.

A year later our son was born and that was also the start of our brake up.

Almost from the moment my wife got home I noticed a change in her. There was nothing in particular just a general change in her attitude. I mentioned this to her from time to time that maybe just maybe she was suffering from a form of post natal depression?

All change. She started asking me if I thought she was unfit to be a mother, NO, Did I think that may be she was unfit, NO, and various other questions leading to her thought that maybe I thought that she was an unfit mother.

From that point on I could do nothing right. I tried to please her in way I could, by doing the house work (that was wrong). Doing the garden (that was wrong). I asked her what could I do, NOTHING. What am I doing wrong, you name it I was doing it. It seemed to me the more I tried the more was going wrong.

One of her final statements was "You've changed" "of course I've change, you keep telling me to change". "I'm trying to save what we have".

Arguments everything was an argument I offered my hand in piece after one particular one and she literally snapped one of my fingers.

I had now had enough and told her so. I threatened her as I left the house (Big Mistake).

She phoned the police and I was arrested. I explained what had happened over the last year, and what I had said was out of pure desperation. They refused to believe me saying that I was a bully, amongst other things.

When I complained about my finger, I was told I was a liar, etc. and that I had done it myself by hitting a hard object when I left the house?

Not one policeman/woman believed that my innocent looking wife had been threatening me or would ever attack me. I finally spoke with the police doctor who sent me under escort to the hospital.

After the X-ray the hospital doctor announced that there was no way that I could have snapped my finger by hitting anything as I left the house, it had been snapped the wrong way.

I was let off with a caution? As for My poor wife, well nothing, nothing for wasting police time, nothing for wasting hospital money, nothing for giving me a police record.

We are now divorced. I gave here everything in the divorce, the house the car everything. My reasons, I was so paranoid I wanted to get away without anymore lies or defamation of character from her.

That was as I said over ten years ago. She is a changed woman I still hold affection for her but now she just uses me for money etc. My son has now started asking questions, but I am at a loss as to what to tell him, so I just say it did not work out.

Since my divorce I have made friends with loads of females but cannot get close. I would love to, but I freeze at any thoughts of emotional ties. I am not celibate by any means; I just don't feel that I can trust my emotions to anyone anymore.

Paul
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