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Love and Relationships - True Love Has No Abuse, Because Love Has No Connection - Part 2
By Pamela Belle Skuse

An external relationship is like the wings of a bird, one being masculine and the other feminine. The wings join together their strong and weak qualities that make up the whole partnership. Due to karmic issues, external relationships have dual conditions often making you unbalanced and like the bird, one wing is strong and dominant and the other wing is weak and suppressed, therefore the bird cannot fly and you and your partner cannot function well. An old energy relationship enables you to look at yourself better, but it is easier to love another, because you have a partner to blame all your issues onto. Blaming another does not work, but it is still difficult to really look at yourself, to look at each issue and see how if affects you personally. But the stigma within mass consciousness has brought about many conditions and beliefs about what a relationship should look like - that is an illusionary lie. To love, to be loved and to belong is a human instant that dictates how life should look like, but it doesn't work like that fairytale story.

To address the issue on love can be broken down into 4 main categories.

1. New Energy Relationship
2. Total Compassion
3. True Love Has No Abuse
4. Love Has No Connection

Let's take a look at each individual category:

1. New Energy Relationship - A new energy relationship is to learn to have a relationship with yourself first before a loving, sharing balanced and harmonious relationship can be experienced with another. It is a sovereign relationship with self, with all facets of self. The relationship with your partner is just a mirror of the type of relationship you are having with yourself. A relationship with self is to bring the outside issues to the inside - looking within instead of focusing on your partner- to seek out the missing link to fill the empty gap within yourself first. A loving new energy relationship with another is to be able to open the door of self-discovery without fear of any destructive abuse, limitation or disempowerment. It is to be with your partner, to enjoy their company, for you do not need anything from them, you do not need to take their energy by feeding off them, you do not need to take or share their money or material possessions, and they do not have to do something in return for you to love them and for them to love you. They do not need to feed off you or enslave your energy. It is to enjoy the relationship with them without placing each others fears, baggage, burdens, agendas and attachments upon each other.

2. Total Compassion - Unconditional love has total compassion with no expectation and agendas - the love is deep as to allow your partner to do anything that they want to do and to discover, even to live in another place. True love is unconditional, it is not conditional, which means you don't love them just for their job, money, or faithfulness or what they can give and do for you. Having an agenda places mistrust within a relationship - to demand a trust. Conditional love is being an empty vessel, you have nothing to give - nothing can be given if it is not within you in the first place. i.e. if you are not full with unconditional love and trust. True love is to trust another totally and openly and it is to allow another to express themselves. True love is to willing to allow them to be anything they choose to be, do or have.

3. True Love Has No Abuse - True love is to fearless acceptance and trust who they are and what they are doing, there are no self-absorbed controls and forceful limitations or no fearful agendas, but it does not mean that you have to like it - it does not mean you have to take on their ills, their mood and any of their abusive experiences as your own. It does not mean that you have to put up with their temper tantrums and for them to wipe their dirty feet on your doormat. That is the distinction line - you can have total unconditional love, but you do not have to put up with any abuse. This is where looking at the mirror comes in, you teach people how you want them to see and treat you; you teach them through expanding the awareness of your own self-love and self-worth levels. You are sovereign in your own right - you can love your partner and not take on their abusive issues and because you love someone it doesn't mean to have to live together or see each other each night in your physical reality. Love is eternal and forever, it is everlasting even when you are no longer in physical form - it is always present.

4. Love Has No Connection - True love has no connection, it has no agendas and conditions and it's not an endurance race of who is going to be together the longest. It is to be able to say to each other, each day that you choose to love each other, to share your time together and to allow each other to have the love and joy for that day and if you choose to be alone for a period of time or to be with another that is your right, but it needs honour, acceptance, integrity and compassion.

A loving relationship with self must be found before true love is found with another. It is to fully love self, to touch, to talk, to breathe self in and to embody all facets of self for what you are or what you have been. It is to stop belittling and judging the self, to stop creating new controlling discipline rules for yourself. It is to be liberated by not carrying around old baggage of the past, or luggage from others or limiting barriers of mass consciousness. There is no suffering, hardship or drudgery - you do not have to worship or celebrate anyone or anything other than celebration of pure joy.

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