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Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 8:19 pm Post subject: Divorce And The In Laws
Divorce And The In Laws
By Bruce Zhou
When there is a divorce going on, there will be people that are hurt by it all. Many times this will include the immediate family members. You will find that if there are children involved in the marriage, they are going to be affected and the same goes for the adults that are in the mix too. Many times it is hard on the in laws when there is a divorce going on in the family.
You do not have to separate yourself from the entire family just because you are getting divorced. You can have a relationship with all the members or the ones that you truly care for. There is no reason that you have to end your time with the in laws just because you and your spouse are not getting along. You should make sure that you keep the ties there especially if you have children involved so that they can b part of their family's life as well.
It is always easier when people remain friends after a divorce. However sometimes pride and emotions will get in the way and this can lead to a bad situation. Sometimes people say things that they should not say and do things that are not exactly nice when they are in a divorce. The same will go with the in laws in the family. They will be mad and some may have their feelings hurt. Many will say things that are not nice and that they did not mean to say but got caught up in the moment. This is one thing that can ruin a relationship between the in-laws.
Having good communication is important with the in-laws. If you are trying to make the relationship stand and keep in a good bond with them, you have to talk thinks out together. You need to sit down and discuss what is going on and how you are all feeling. Getting the emotions on the table will help the situation get better and allow time for healing because you are talking it out. If you keep things locked inside you this will only build up and over time you will explode. This can cause a lot of stress on any relationship and the in laws.
Make sure that you do your part in keeping in touch. Send cards and write letters to them and all the family. You may want to call them on holidays and wish them well from time to time. You do not have to be up close and personal with them, but why ruin a relationship that was once good just because you are not married to their family member any more. It is a shame to let bonds break because of pride. You should do your best to keep this relationship open so that you have all the support that you can get when going through a divorce.
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